So recently my partner and I opened our LTR to other partners. That is not what this post is about but more for context. For 10+ years I have not used condoms with my partner. For obvious reasons when I sleep with other people I am using them now. So far had very bad experiences that end in me not being able to maintain an erection.
Simply put I cannot feel anything, the lack of feeling gets in my head and before I know it im losing it and start to panic causing it to really lose it.
Then later with my LTR partner and no condom… No issue at all.
Any tips or recommendations for brands?
Also just in case there is any miscommunication, I am absolute not going to go raw with anyone other then my LTR partner…
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It happens, the feeling of a condom and the new experience. Try using something to help you, like Viagra. I also used Kamagra oral jelly and had no complaints.
It is mostly in the head and once you start worrying, it becomes worse. But after a few successful sessions with some help, you may find you perform well on your own.
While theoretically condoms are one size fits all (and can be stretched over an adult person’s leg) it’s best to use a condom that fits you. There are a few brands that focus on the size and my nesting partner has found that the Mr. Size is a good brand once you’ve properly measured yourself
It’s quite likely that you’re using a condom that’s too small for your penis. It’s also possible that you’re using condoms with a numbing agent that’s designed to make you last longer by reducing the sensitivity of your penis. The FAQ section on erection issues includes a link to a condom sizing chart. [https://www.reddit.com/r/sex/wiki/index/#wiki_erection_issues](https://www.reddit.com/r/sex/wiki/index/#wiki_erection_issues)
You should test out new condoms when you have sex with your partner. If you don’t feel anything you can take the condom off and switch back to raw sex. You may have to repeat this experiment a few times before you find a condom that fits well and feels good.
If you’re average size, try skyn original or skyn elites (thinner) non-latex. They don’t have that nasty rubber smell and you can feel the warmth of your partner when inside.
Start getting use to wearing a Dom with your partner. Still no joy try a durex silicone jelly cock-ring and/or sildenafil