I’m starting to realize that most people seem to not actually want the best for other people’s relationships. There’s never any genuine advice to try to fix a problem. It’s almost always “run away”, aka break up. Of course, this is anecdotal, but I cant be the only one.
Unsolicited advice seems to also be the norm. People are so comfortable just giving you relationship advice just because they want to.
Maybe my lack of putting a stop to it is the real problem so I’m curious to know ho other people would respond.
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‘Did I ask for your opinion?’
Usually shuts that shit down.
Me and my friends have no problem telling each other to shut the fuck up and know when the other means it. That’s probably how I’d respond.
“I appreciate your thoughts, but I’ve got to live my own life.”
You run your mouth and I’ll run my business, brother.
If it’s a close friend I’ll listen, but if not then fuck em. One of friends in our group didn’t listen when we all recognized his fiancé was isolating him from his friends and family – we went from all being best friends for the last 16 years to “bad influences” and his parents became “emotionally manipulative”. Said what we needed to, he told all of us to fuck off and that we’re just trying to ruin his relationship – we did fuck off. 3 years later she divorced him and he tried to reconnect with everything apologizing – but none of us cared to at that point. If they’re close friends, hear them out and honestly consider it. If they’re strangers, who gives a shit.
> from a friend
> not actually want the best for other people’s relationships
That’s not a friend. But to answer the question, I’d just ignore it.
>There’s never any genuine advice to try to fix a problem.
Sometimes it’s better to cut your losses then try and fix the sinking ship.
It’s the easiest piece of advice to give people. It also directly solves the problem. Especially when other advice has been given then not followed or acted upon – if you’ve gotten advice and done nothing to improve your situation.
Find news friends that aren’t fucking idiots.
It really depends on your relationship with your friends, how much they know about your life, your situation, and your relationship.
If they’re uneducated about some or all of those topics, well, why *wouldn’t* you ignore uneducated advice? You wouldn’t take medical advice from your mechanic, right?
But if the advice you’re getting doesn’t mesh well with your view of your relationship you might want to step back and examine the relationship to see if maybe you’re the proverbial frog in boiling water. You might have let things get so bad, but only a little at a time, and you might not realize how bad things are. It does happen. Take some time to reflect and make sure you’re not the one whose idea of their relationship doesn’t align with reality.