I have strong social anxiety so I tend to view everyone as “out of my league”, however when I do get out of my comfort zone and actually somehow make a friend, I just look down on them (even though they might be the kindest person I ever met) because someone like me was easily able to become friends with them so in my mind I believe that they were just an easy target and I didnt do anything special.
I know this is a horrible way of thinking therefore I want to change and break out of this cycle.
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This sounds like an extreme lack of self confidence, because your negativity towards others is really just a reflection of your own securities. There’s a lot of different techniques on how people try to tackle self confidence issues but the true key is figuring out where this idea about why you think everyone is out of your league, even started in the first place. It could be some childhood trauma or some traumatic event in general, but once you can identity the root cause, then you can begin the work of healing and truly changing your mindset.
A lot of people might just tell you to say some daily positive affirmations which can help, but it’s difficult because there’s always going to be a portion deep inside you that makes you cast doubt so you need to dig deep remove that part of you