I always considered myself someone who fully overcame social anxiety. I still think I have for the most part. I’ve been away from work for about a week and when I came back a girl I got along with really well straight up ignored me twice when I smiled and greeted her. I tried a few times and I was clear so I know she heard me. She looked at me but looked away without responding. I also feel hostility coming from a few of the other girls. I’m genuinely confused.
For a better picture my place of work is a strip club and me and these girls I’m talking about are all strippers.
My social anxiety gets triggered when things like this happen especially when I don’t know why or what I did. When it happens I find myself going out of my way to be extra nice, positive, helpful and complimentary because I just can’t do anything else. I guess I’m hoping it will ease the tension. And a part of me hopes by being the nice one other people will see that and assume the other person is the problem and not me so I don’t get ganged up on.
I just know I’m gonna go back to work and keep smiling at and greeting people who are trying to give me the cold shoulder. I feel like it’s gonna be really off putting because it’s a strange response. I don’t want people to think I’m crazy. I know simply asking about it or not trying to interact with them is an option but it’s so out of my comfort zone. I feel protected by doing my nicey nice thing.. I guess I need encouragement or advice on HOW to actually confront this in a healthy way
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To be honest, people who do the nicey nice thing, because they’re trying so hard to be liked and to be seen as “good people”, is enough of a reason for me NOT to like them. It comes through as very obviously fake.