My husband and i have been together 10 years. The last couple of years he has been traveling and i think it has caused some issues. I used to look forward to him coming home but lately i don’t know. Seems like he just finds the negative things with me and it just upsets me. He feels like he has to beg for sex but he doesn’t. All I’m asking for is attention but i get ignored. I don’t know how to fix it.. he always wants me to start things but what about him? It goes both ways right?
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It absolutely goes both ways. Have you told him how you feel when you get ignored and when he focuses on the negatives? If not you need to be open about this and without accusing him of doing anything wrong, and you need to be clear on what you need from him and ask him to be clear with what he needs from you.
It might also be a good idea to work with a therapist or coach.
Have you thought about meeting a conselor ? You both seem having communication issues. It can be easier with a neutral person between you two.
And yes, for sure, in a relationship things need t go both way.
You need to tell him that counseling is a must. Tell him that you believe in it and that that should be enough.
Tell him to give it a fair chance and that you know he doesn’t think everything is going smooth either