My partner(26m) and I(23f) have been together for almost 3 years. There’s nothing exactly going wrong with our sex lives, but sometimes it can get repetitive and we’ve gotten to a point where we are almost rotating through the same 4-5 positions and such. I think this can be normal in long term, monogamous relationships, but I’m looking for ideas to make our sex more exciting and to throw in some more variety ya know? If anyone has suggestions or can point me to good resources to find ideas, please share with me! thanks 🙂
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Find each others kinks
Communication!!
Here are [the things we did to spice things up](https://sexyfunadvice.com/2022/08/how-do-i-have-a-conversation-about-kinkier-sex/)
Take a sexual interests survey and compare your answers. I’m sure you can find one online.
-Talk to each other about things you want to try.
Some Suggestions:
-Roleplay (costumes and props are optional)
– introducing elements of BDSM to the bedroom
– introducing toys to the bedroom
-Tantric Sex (look it up, it’s basically slow, meditative sex that is less about achieving orgasm and more about the sexual journey and the acceptance of each other’s bodies)
-introducing other people to the bedroom as either participants or audience members
-introduce pornography to the bedroom
– make the sexual favors you give each other a form of transaction
-Place bets on anything and the looser of the bet has to perform oral to the winner
-Have “masturbation races” to see who can make themselves orgasm sooner. (Optional: looser has to perform oral to the winner.)
-try sex under various different mind-altering substances (I recommend marijuana and Honey VIP)
-make your sex religious or spiritual in some way by incorporating elements of your chosen belief system
-try playing sexy music while you have sex
-Have sex on a rose-petal covered bed after a glass of wine and a joint each with sexy music playing in the background and the room lit with only candles on a night when neither of you have work the next day.
-make sex cute by trying new things and then giggling a little bit when it doesn’t work out exactly as planned
– try different clothes in the bedroom such as leather or lingerie
-try crossdressing
– try 69
-try mutual masturbation