what was sex like shortly after you/your partner had had a baby?

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1. It took a while with my first wife.

   The biggest mistake I made was not talking about sex with her at the time, assuring her I wanted her back sexually but also affirming that she should take her time.

   She went without wanting sex for almost six months; at least part of that was perceiving me to have lost interest. Rookie mistake on my part.

2. We talked about it beforehand. She’d expressed nervousness about getting back to sex for pain and discomfort. It was 6 weeks to clearance and I was like, let’s double it and I’m not going to ask about having sex for like 3 months because I don’t want to pressure you. So, if you’re ready before that, let me know. She surprised me the night she got clearance in lingerie after I did bedtime with the kiddo.

   We took things slowly the first few times to make sure everything was working right. There were no problems, but my approach was to just try and make sure she was comfortable with every step and was more on reconnecting sexually to rebuild the confidence that everything was good rather that having some crazy, raucous sex.