So me and my boyfriend have been together for 5 years now. We still aren’t engaged, he’d rather his phone and friends over myself.
TL;DR –
We have been together for 5 years. I used to do everything with him we’d go out on dates and even on nights out.
His phone and his friends have become his life and I have become the part on the side.
It’s not even just that I can’t go out with him in his friend any more at all it’s not a thing but if we was to go out it’s fine for his friends to invited themselves on a night out.
We still aren’t engaged- i generally don’t know how to think and feel about this!? I see people always getting engaged after a year or two and it has been 5years for us.
He’s moods always change and one minute he is up for things the next he isn’t.
What do I do?
3 comments
You are both still pretty young. So the 5 years makes the getting engaged part different with your age. It might be best to move on if you feel he is no longer interested though.
Have a serious conversation with him and tell him you want more quality time together, where the phone gets put away and you focus on each other. If he doesn’t respond with meaningful effort, consider whether you want to stay in this relationship. If he’s not meeting your needs now, an engagement and eventually marriage isn’t going to improve the situation.
You’re far too young to be thinking about marriage. Friends are important too – maybe hang around with your own sometimes as he might feel suffocated a little