How could your Mom have been someone you talked to or someone you felt really supported you?

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  1. Never ever give them a hard time or bring up something that they said. That will make them never wanna talk to you again. Listen to what they have to say with an unbiased mind and then offer advice if you ever have any need to give advice. Don’t just try to fix their problems. They will figure it out

  2. You know, now that I’m grown (41), I wish I was the one different growing up, not my mom. There was a lot going on as a working single mom I just didn’t understand, and I feel like shit for it. And yes, I have had this conversation with her and apologized and showed my respect. Kids just don’t get it.

  3. Kinda wished she hadn’t used me as a sounding board any time she felt like complaining about my dad.

  7. She’s always supported me but sometimes I felt she didn’t attempt to really grasp my perspective of my issues as a kid growing up

    Like she wanted to help but would say something very general that wasn’t helpful bc I got the vibe of “you’re a kid your problems aren’t complex so figure it out I have bills to pay”

    For example how I dealt with bullying over my race she just said the general “tell a teacher” which of course didn’t help & caused more trouble

    That was the first time I really had to solve a social issue without any guidance but I’m glad I figured it out

    Anyways now these days as an adult she takes me completely seriously and gladly entertains more innovative solutions to my issues if I have any

  8. Nothing really. I knew that she was a good mom, but as I’ve gotten older I realize that she was pretty awesome.

  9. My mom didn’t handle stress well, and handed out weird/cruel punishments or did strange “pranks” that were kind of humiliating.

    I wish she didn’t do those.

  10. whenever, I bring up something that bothers me, particulary if it’s about someone else in the famiy, she’ll always get defensive, or say their side, or give me a list of reasons to counteract it. It makes me feel like my opinions or feelings don’t matter and that i’m never heard.

    And she wonders why I never open up to her any more

  11. By offering legitimate advice more often. I love my mother to death but she is the most religious person on the planet. Thankfully she’s not a hateful Christian, just pretty naive. If I’ve ever had a problem her solution was to always pray with me, advise me to pray, or to pray *for* me. Honestly didn’t mind as a kid because my sister or Father would always come around with legit solutions.

    But as I grow older, it becomes more tiring for her to advise prayer as the solution to everything. I know she’s offering a solution that she has found to be extremely rewarding and useful in her life (growing up in a third world country, faith can be all people have sometimes), but I’d rather just get some actual life advice from time to time from her. Still love that woman though and always will.

    Though her advice wasn’t always the best, she did her damnedest to raise her kids as best she could and give them the childhood she never could have had in her home country.

  14. My mom would often force me to do the things she considered “right and proper”, certian that i would get to like them.too, like being outside in hot weather (i hate that), dancing (i really hate that), travelling (please kill me), or try out every article of clothing for sale in town ( i am a hairs breath away from a murderous rampage).

    Even to this day, she still can’t fathom why everyone doesn’t like the same stuff as her, she has simply learned that i will up and leave the company if she tries to push it on me again.

  17. I just wish she’d wanted to be a mother instead of smoking and drinking her way through bars, hanging out with friends who were into drinking and drugs, and just made me feel wanted and not like a burden in general. But that’s not who she is, even today (I’m 51, BTW), something it took me decades to realize, and something I had to explain to my younger sister when she complained to me that mom wouldn’t make time to watch her kids so she could go out. “If she’s never been a good mother, what makes you think she’ll make a good grandmother?” I asked. Just gotta accept her as she is and move on, I realized through her that you can’t change people, only how you react & interact with them. That’s probably the only lesson she ever taught me, albeit 100% unintentionally… 🤷🏻‍♂️

  20. Not beating the shit out of me because of a resemblance to my father while not even lifting a finger to my sister when she did much more heinous shit than I did.

  22. Chose a better person to have children with (never knew my father) and then married a man who she met through Alcoholics Anonymous who had kids. We all basically ended up hating each other as we progressed through our teens and it was a nightmare. His kids especially were bad, and both ended up dropping out of high school and basically running away.

    It was a pretty weird and chaotic childhood, and I am completely averse to the idea of ever involving myself in any “step” family situation ever.

  25. I wish my mom would actually listen to what I say. It was pretty bad growing up, but I think it’s worse as an adult. She doesn’t even act like she’s listening.

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