I (19f) recently matched with “bobby” (25m) on bumble. We hit it off almost right off the bat and after a couple of days, he asked for my number and stuff has been good, we plan on a date next week. The thing is bobby has been “so perfect” in a way that’s scary, idk but I just feel like this heartbreak will be strong if I find anything suspicious.
Apart from that, we started following e/o on instagram, bobby has a private instagram which I mean it’s whatever but then I realized bobby’s follower/following are private as well, meaning you can’t see people he’s following n his followers. Also, his following # is more than followers. I don’t wanna be paranoid but it just doesn’t sit right with me, because if your page is already private , why the need to private your followers as well?
I don’t appreciate my s/o following naked women n such , and i’ve kind of hinted it to bobby that I don’t date men who mess around.
How do I bring up his private follower/following without seeming controlling or something of sort?
TL;DR: s/o private followers/following on instagram, how I do express my discomfort?
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You’re not mature enough to be dating yet.
When someone has a private account on Instagram, you cannot see their following/followers, that’s just part of the regular privacy thing, it’s not an extra privacy setting
When someone has a private account on Instagram, you cannot see their following/followers, that’s just part of the regular privacy thing, it’s not an extra privacy setting.
Also, you need to chill out a bit. You haven’t even gone on one date with dude. And I say that as someone who also likes to online stalk guys I talk to