Hi I’m 17 and recently got together with this beautiful girl and had my first sexual experience that being a blowjob. However although she was doing an absolutely amazing job I just couldn’t finish even if she used her hand as well. Eventually I finished off for her and we went from there.
I can only cum if I use my hand and I use a tight grip and I’ve been doing this for about 2/3 years now. Is there anyway to recover from this? I have stopped watching as much porn recently as I’ve heard that helps. I really don’t want her to think it’s her fault and I also want to be able to enjoy time with her
Any toys are out of the question as my parents seem to check my post.
Cheers
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It’s normal not to cum from a blowjob. But if you want to be more sensitive, stop touching yourself for a while.
Frankly… It’s hard to come from just a blowjob.
Maybe your grip was little bit hard when you masturbate but you are just 17. It will be ok with a regular sex life.
Overthinking can also make it harder to finish during a bj. If you start worrying about how long it’s taking you to cum, it can make it take longer. My advice is just try to relax and enjoy it
blowjobs feel amazing but doesn’t always provide the same friction / sensation on the penis as piv. try doing piv first and then have her blow you when you’re near orgasm.
you can increase sensation by taking a break from masturbating for a couple weeks and then using a softer grip.
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Hey bud,
Try laying on your side as she sucks you off! During a time way back where I hard a hard time coming this always did the trick.
Also have her lick your balls as you jerk off, that way she’s still included in the process (some women also have to get themselves off and you can help by licking them etc)
Meh bjs can take long for me to cum if I even do. If you can’t during sex then you can be a little concerned but not too much. You’re learning so it’s okay
Yes and no. Yes it can very well be because of that but at the same time it could be that you are not used to the sensation or that the person that gave it to you is still learning. Could be even a little of all. To stop jerking off is a good place to start
Go a bit without masturbating.. you’re going to have to try to ultra focus on another part of your life and give it a bit. I’d say about a week and another go, you’d probably be trying not to blow. You have to de-sensitize.
Or change how you masturbate. More lube, less grip, or get a toy that’s not super snug.
Personally for me, I find blowjobs to be more mental than physical in most cases. The physical aspect if immaculate is enough and amazing but if you find yourself struggling the mental came comes to the rescue.
Use whatever nasty, back of the brain stuff you can. Focus on your body. For me I like to focus on the motion and movement in my hips/legs and use some thoughts to help
I think you’re completely normal. I have never been able to climax from a bj but have to keep myself from Cumming too early everytime I have piv sex. Just keep going on with this girl and learn how you both can be better lovers through communication.
mem, I’ve never knew a friend tht came from blowjob, that’s not an answer to you question but it is at least one reminder tonlet you know that people do enjoy things and they are not on duty to cum, or cum with the other only action, you can share a moment and help her to cum aftdr this with your help, sex it what works/feel good/easy/natural for you!! 🙂
I’m 64 and only 3 women in my life have been able to get me to cum from oral. All 3 were cocktail waitresses and 2 of them named Barb.
Because only dudes give the best head. Guys have a dick too so they know EXACTLY how to stimulate another dude’s penis