i’m open to try new things, in fact, i was kinda the one who suggested it. I told him we could try it under my conditions and requests and he agreed. He said he’s willing to try with another guy (cause i feel more comfortable that way) but he told me to look for someone to join, that way I can feel comfortable and safe, however, I’ve never really asked someone to join in.
I kinda have a friend in mind, however, i’m not sure how to ask him or anyone else to join us, how could i ask someone, any advice on this?
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Ask me instead kiddingš¤
Hello. Mmmā¦so Iām now single and trying to do some more things sexually myself.
You should try this app. āFeeldā. Itās geared towards exploring your sexuality, so you will find open minded people on there trying to do the same thing. Not sure where youāre from, but it works for me as I live 10 mins a large major city while also being in large suburban area myself.
Iām suppose to meet a couple tomorrow for MMF. So I can confirm it works.
Edit: we chatted for a bit and went on a date to get to know each other better. Also, we all have been tested for STDs. Didnāt want to make it sound that easy š
Be safe and happy hunting.
Edit 2: I got nothing for the friend. Iām making new ones at the moment who are more open minded and whatnot.
Feeld app is a great option. It might be easier to have a three some with a stranger given thereās trust and attraction etc. Involving someone both of you know may seem easier, however be prepared for the potential aftermaths. Jealousy, expectations and so on.
Also make sure you and your partner figure out clear boundaries for the threesome. Think of all the scenarios that you or he feel comfortable and uncomfortable with. Have a safe word in case one of you gets emotionally overwhelmed. Be open and share your desires, boundaries and fears with the third person. Overall this can be loads of fun. The keys are communication, communication and communication.
On this sub there are regularly post about the āunexpectedā side effects of bringing other people into a coupleās bedroom. Personally, I find it so unnecessary. Think the scenario through and talk about the details in advance.
Some people think it takes the fun and spontaneity out of it if you talk ātoo muchā beforehand. I call BS. When a waiter reads you the menu and describes in intricate details how the chef prepares the meal for you ā do you get more or less hungry?
Take your time to prepare and chances are your relationship will deepen and flourish as a result. Wishing yāall loads of fun!
As a swinger I second what others have said here. Apps are a good way to find people even if it can take a bit of vettig to find the right person. Friends is generally not a good idea even if it of course can work for some.
Would like to add, even if it wasn’t a part of the question. Rules and boundaries are good and should be very clear, but I think it is also good to realize that too much rules etc isn’t always better. At some point you will just end up being better off not doing it instead.
Also, taking things slow is nr one for me with stuff like this. One small step at a time. It is better to make a small mistake and realize this might not be for you than go all in immidietly and realizing it. I have said it before, but fantasizing together etc is a great way to get a small feel for everything before moving to the real thing.
Have fun, hope you find someone good.