How can I tell my boyfriend I want to go slower sometimes?

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1. If he finds it annoying and that’s a deal breaker for him, you might not be compatible. Just be direct

   You should be able to communicate what you want within reason. And asking for that sometimes (you don’t have to put a number on it) is perfectly reasonable.

   I’ve had difficulty expressing my needs in the past because I was afraid I wouldn’t be good enough and they’d abandon me, but it gets easier to do the more you practice.

   I ask my partner for whatever kind of sexies I want if I’m wanting something in particular, and vice versa. We’re like a team. I wonder if he’ll high five me if I ask him to 🤔

2. “Hey babe, I love the passionate, dirty-talking sex we have, but sometimes I just want it slow, gentle, and sweet”

   He will be fine and appreciate you communicating.

3. “Slow down”

   If it isnt respected, he doesnt respect you.

4. I suggest dirty talk about it “I love it when you fuck me slow from behind, it makes me want to cum all over your dick” if that’s too uncomfortable something as simple as “I love it when you take your time and slide in and out slowly it’s such a turn on”