Long story short- met a girl at the gym, and we small talk in the middle of workouts. We also exchanged numbers. A few weeks ago I asked her if she was free one evening for dinner and she replied saying she wasn’t since she had some family visiting. I was very direct in my proposal (asked her if she’d want to get dinner the next evening, not “sometime this weekend” or “get dinner sometime”). Is this her rejecting only that instance of an invite or should I take this as an L? There wasn’t any change in our dynamic in the gym after this so that threw me off since I was expecting a little awkwardness lol. She didn’t say we should reschedule and I didn’t really preface the invite saying I wanted to take her out in a date or anything. Should I ask her out again?
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If I were her and into you, I would have suggested a different day or time after declining your first offer.
Yes, you were turned down.
It’s easier to ignore suggestions, and direct invites has a higher rate of response. That’s why I recommend them. If you’re rejected right away, you **know** you can move on, instead of waiting weeks for a possible response.
She may have family that night, or nothing. She needed an excuse and a soft rejection is still a rejection.
Let her know you’re open to dating her and leave the ball in her court. No pressure. Go ask out someone else.
Ask her out again. Some women (like me) like to see how persistent you are. A persistent man makes me feel like they are serious about getting to know me. Give her the benefit of the doubt that she really was busy in the past but If she rejects you this time move on.