I’m part of a few different communities with a wide range of ages including a music scene, running groups, a high pressure career environment ect. Dating gives me a lot of anxiety and I often feel trapped. It feels like I will never date anyone without putting them through tons of scrutiny and having my tastes questioned to the point of madness.
Theoretically this wouldn’t be a problem if there were endless fit lawyers who play bass and get along with everyone but realistically that guy doesn’t sound particularly nice or like someone I’d date in the first place. I usually date people because we connect over one or two important things but it never stops either one of us from being raked over the coals. If they are in one of these communities the gossip and judgement seems even worse but if they are an outsider people act weird that I’m dating a virtual stranger. Mostly people aren’t outright rude or hostile but whoever I date, the comments are always that they are so introverted, not really into music, not active enough, or not attractive enough. Even if they are all of these things they’re too “weird”.
Clearly I’m going to get into another relationship but does anyone have any advice for dealing with the constant judgement when they don’t meet everyone’s sky high expectations?
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Your question is unclear.