Very often, I feel alone in life. I have acquaintances that I interact with through the day, classmates, coworkers, etc. I even have some people I would consider myself to be on friendly terms but I wouldn’t consider them friends.
Everything feels so fickle and fragile. I’m very well aware that the only reason why all these people interact with me is due to proximity. By next semester, I won’t ever see most of the people I know in this semester. When I quit my current job, I’ll never see any of my coworkers again, I’ll have to start anew.
With the people I consider friendly, I know they’ll never be anything deeper or more meaningful. Conversations will never go beyond “how are you?”, “How was the weekend?” Or “Have you watched this show on Netflix?”
My last relationship only lasted 4 months. I didn’t even see that break up coming. Barely a month later she was already dating someone else.
Maybe I’m the problem, maybe I keep myself closed off or I’m boring.
That’s not to say I don’t try to find worthwhile people. I just don’t ever succeed.
How do people go about finding people who will stick around a long time, if not, Forever?
I just feel alone
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Open up. Be vulnerable. Allow people to see the real you and that’s how you’ll find someone to appreciate the deeper things about you
So for starters, it sounds a little bit as if you’re closed off, but NOT boring. It takes time to break out of your shell, especially if you may not be a people person, and a lot of people in your circle can sense that. What you don’t want to happen, is people who see that, and immediately call you awkward. It’s happened to me before, and part of that was because I wasn’t interactive as I should have when I approached them. So you always want to be open, engaging, inviting, and find ways to converse with others that include THEM into your circle and conversation. Talk about life, talk about them, make the conversation about them but never about you. The biggest thing is to always listen and be their ear, not the other way around. It is okay to make some comparisons to your life if you need to. Sometimes it’s hard to do this without having them think you’re annoying, but that’s life. Everyone’s different and meeting new people is perfectly fine and normal.
What are your interests, hobbies, goals? What type of organizations or clubs are you in? Do you know of anyone that may have the same interests as you? Think about those things. Go with the intentions of making friends and establishing platonic relationships before making things about romantic relationships.
Be sure to always invite and include them on things such as movies, hanging out, places, etc.
Things like this take time to build. It’s all about upping your personality and being open with good conversations.
Check out the book “How do you win people and influence people?” By Dale Carnegie. Things will all work out! Just let time build.