I am a 6’3, 25m, who just moved down the street from this coffee shop. I am acquaintances with the owner (21m, young right? Lol), but would really love to get to know him more because I am working toward opening up my own coffee shop as well. Also, side note, I am also super attracted to him and feel so insecure and awkward around him. I am gonna describe how I feel to the best of my ability, not just for help with the situation but I have no one to rant to about this. (Side Note: Trying to work through social skill trauma and inferiority aside from all this).
So been going here for a little while, and would talk to him and come in every so often. I have been coming in every day now and spending at least an hour or two there after getting off of work. I try to talk to him but I am so anxious I am making him uncomfortable or irritated that I am trying to talk with him. I ask about his day or how work has been going and he asks me and we talk for like 5 minutes and I am worried if I try to stand there and chat with him more ill annoy him He never seems irritated but I always hated it when customers just forced a ‘friendship’ on me because I was the ‘barista’ so I just assume I am annoying him.
Ugh. I just get so nervous around him because he is really hard to read and I already feel inferior to most people (especially other men I am attracted to) so I just assume he just hates me and wishes I would stop trying to talk to him. Please someone help me understand how I am feeling or how I could talk to him better, haha. Thank you!