I’ve known my friend, Jane (fake name) for 2 years now. We’ve gotten along so well that I actually asked her out last November. She respectfully rejected me and we remained friends. Today, when I was visiting her at her apartment, we were discussing what was up with our lives overall. When I was talking, we were sitting down on a couch, not so far from each other.
When discussing why I was on dating apps and still single, she started flirting with me. She was talking about how attractive I was and started playfully touching me. It wasn’t until she touched my crouch area out of nowhere where I moved myself a little away from her. She continued saying how lucky a woman would be to date me. I said I know and agreed. She looked like she wanted to kiss me and asked me bluntly if she could give me a blowjob. I said no and she was irate and said I supposedly still had feelings for her and that I was stupid to say no.
Seriously though, after she rejected me last November, it took me about a month to get over her. That’s why I’ve been on dating apps since the rejection. After I rejected the blowjob, she kicked me out of her apartment. I think I possibly lost a friend, who knows. I hope to talk with her later eventually, when she calms down, which I know she will.
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You’re winning life.
“Reddit, this girl is pissed she can’t suck my dick, what do?”
Lol I love Reddit
Women dont always get much practice being rejected so personally I would give her a little leeway with her behavior.
Give her a little time to get over it and then act like nothing happened unless she wants to apologize.
Did she have a cold sore or something? Never reject a blowjob bro…like…ever.
They get like that when they’re told no, well done sir.
Yeah why’d you reject the blowjob?
Oh man.
She just wanted to practice. You should have taken one for the team.
Best case: She’s your GF.
Worst case: One of her friends is your GF.
You just blew your shot at all of her friends (she will not give you a reference).
Puns intended!
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He’s probably gay. It’s ok if you are we will not judge you.
Kinda 🫤confused, I respect your right to say no, even just “I didn’t feel like it” would work for me because your feelings are valid. Still it feels like a juicy detail and you left it out. Why did you say no?
I didn’t get to this level yet, some tips might be helpful lmao
Girlfriends are like bus’s when one leaves there will be another one along soon
You should let her reach out to you, or not reach out to you. She’s either feeling really embarrassed or offended, and either way, that’s something she needs to resolve on her own. Engaging with her again is only enabling that sort of behavior to continue, and it’s gross behavior. She does not deserve your friendship for that, not only do you not touch someone’s crotch without proper consent, getting mad at someone for not giving consent for any sex act is fucking rapist mentality, man or woman. If she does reach out, please tell her that that’s never okay to do to someone, even when but especially if there ARENT any signals that that’s where the situation is heading. Imagine if you had just grabbed her by the crotch and started rubbing without any forewarning.
As for why she did it? Combination of she thought she could do better than you when she rejected you and clearly hasn’t so now she’s desperate for attention OR she was wrong about you and realized she does like you. Either way, after 6-7 months, she shouldn’t assume you’ve been pining after her all this time, and if you were respectful in asking her out, she should have done the same. Given that she got so nasty as soon as you rejected her though, my guess is she has been rejected a lot lately by the guys she really wanted, and thought she could get an easy confidence boost from you and you knocked her down a peg. Which is good, because from her reaction, she needs it.
I was 19 when I went until the end with another guy. But my experiences like oral sex date since I was 4 years old and, yes, I was abused, but I barely remember that.
Dude you turned down a BJ cause she didn’t want to go out with you back in November. I must be the wrong kind of dude cause I would have happily accepted that offer, and still not went out with her.
You do not want this woman as your friend.
She rejected you and now makes a play for you – what game is she playing?
Let me tell you what game. She’s an insecure nutbag who gets off on knowing you want her, and when she hears that you’ve moved on and are trying to date, she decides to try to reel you back.
NEVER put your d*ck in crazy, manipulative, insecure, game playing women.
NEVER.
I’m sorry but I NEVER heard of a man refusing a blowjob. It’s a BLOWJOB and nothing more.
Ewww she ist Just a fucking creep and disgusting. You did all right my man.
You can wait until she calms down to talk to her, but set a hard boundary with her.
“*I know being turned down sucks, but I’ve moved on. I do not have any romantic feelings for you any longer and I need you to respect that for me the same way I respected it when you turned me down last November. I do want to say friends with you, but if you can’t respect my feelings on this, then it might be time for us to at least spend time away from each other to figure out on our own where our friendship goes from here.*”
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Personally, her coming onto you now reads to me like one of two things
1. She’s realized that she does, in fact, have feelings for you and is genuinely hurt by being turned down and she’s accusing you of still having feelings for her because that’s what she wants to be true.
2. Or, she’s realized that you have/are working on moving on and doesn’t want you to do that because she likes the attention that she gets from you so she is trying to draw you back to her so that she can keep you in her orbit as a source of attention and validation.
I don’t know her personally, so I can’t really say which one is more likely but for me I lean towards the latter because if I had rejected someone and then later come to realize that I had feelings for them, I wouldn’t be so forward about trying to have sex with them. I would try to talk with them and see if there was a chance despite the previous rejection; and if there *wasn’t* a chance because of the previous rejection, I certainly wouldn’t be “kick them out and refuse to talk” pissed because…well I rejected them first.
Women generally aren’t equipped to handle rejection. Usually they do the rejecting. Plus, in this instance she initially did the rejecting so she thought you’d say yes to anything she wanted. Good on you.
So I have a similar story. Always ended up as the 4th wheel whenever my roommate and his gf and friend went out. She had an old bf that was a FWB. I liked her. Asked her out. Took her out for dinner. Started to semi date. Nothing ever happend. One day saw the FWB leaving her apartment. Decided to nope out. Several weeks later she threw herself at me. Unlike you I ended up dating her, moving in and after a ltr found her cheating in me. So honestly buddy I think you way ahead in the game and you don’t need that kind of friendship
I think you did the right thing, it sounds like she got a bit irked that you moved on from her after she rejected you (as you should). Maybe she had some level of attraction for you and now wanted to reel you back in. I think she is a manipulative person and you’re better off without being friends with someone like this
Also I’m sorry but, the comments asking about why you turned down the blowjob are cracking me up
Take the money and run
Hey honestly – good for you for rejecting her advances, I mean you gave her an opportunity and she declined, so you moved on, got on dating apps, and still managed to stay friends with her. I think you dodged that bullet.
Because if you guys hooked up, she would’ve eventually brushed you off and tell you she isn’t interested again, and you’ll be back to square one trying to get over her. It’s just classic manipulation she’s doing, she wants you but doesn’t want you and doesn’t want anyone else to.
I am weak I would have accepted such advance
My man rejected weakness
Embraced masculinity
cum in her moouth lol
If we take this charitably and say this was her plan to rewrite what happened last November and signal an openness to dating, my god did she get it wrong in the most awkward and cringey way possible.
But in reality, I think what happened is that she saw you were moving on and got jealous that she wasn’t your #1 now. And she tried to prove to herself that she could still “get you” if she wanted to. And you torpedoed that shit in the most beautiful way possible.
She owes you a massive apology, but I would t hold my breathe waiting for it.
You can catch herpes from oral. So maybe you dodged a bullet?
My gfs name is jane. Better be a fake name! 😉