Context: My bf (32) and I (30) were high school sweethearts who recently found our way back to one another. Last week, he asked me to name a few things I find romantic so he could make sure to incorporate them into our reignited relationship.

I named a couple things we used to do together that I missed and a few things he was already doing that I really like, etc. But when I asked him “What do YOU find romantic?” He drew a blank. For like. A week. I want him to feel the romance too. Men, ideas?!

13 comments

  1. Buy a nice movie on blu ray and show up to his house at a surprise yet convient time with the disc and a box of chocolate. Then have a movie night under the blanket, cuddle and a few sweet words.

  2. Besides anal or a three-way. That’s a joke. I’ve been married fornover 30 years and honestly it can be difficult to keep that flame going, we are high school sweethearts. So I’ll toss my man card in the trash and say I love taking a bubble bath in our giant jacuzzi tub with candles and al green, elvis and Barry White singing for just us. Cuddling up in that hot water and making out like we were 16 again is amazing. When we get out and dry off I’ll brush her hair, paint her nails and she will color in my fading tattoos after she braids and beads my majestic beard.

  3. Appreciation for the things he does, no matter the size. Allowing him to feel like he has peace of mind and a non-combative environment to be himself.

    Forget romance-for-men. Give him happiness, respect, loyalty, and appreciation – those will have greater impact than many other things.

  4. Get involved in his hobbies. Watch his favorite movie with him, or a sports game, or play a game with him, whichever he prefers.

  5. One approach for your consideration:

    I would suggest that having the best shot at something that lands with your particular guy in a way that’s somewhat “romantic” for him might mean paying attention to specifically *him*/noting what things he is into, so you can use the info later.

    For example:

    A former lil’ honey of mine noticed something about me in the first month of dating – she saw that I like laying down on a blanket in the grass behind my building to put my hands behind my head and just watch the white puffy clouds roll by…

    When it was time for me to set up the next date for us, she announced that she would like for it to be *her* turn to plan and take care of everything for a date.

    She kept most details a secret but gave me a sense of how to dress in order to be comfortable, and she told me to bring what I wanted to drink. The date ended up being me and her hopping on a bus to a nearby community that had very short, easy hike to a lake area I knew nothing about. She put down a blanket for us and had a basket for us to eat out of for the afternoon while relaxing on the blanket and enjoying the view of the sky, lake, etc.

    At the end, when I mentioned how cool I thought the lakeside spot was, she shared that she knew I would enjoy it ever since the day I’d had her join me on a blanket on my backyard lawn.

    So again, pay attention to little things your particular guy is into, and keep those things in mind/maybe combine a few of them for an evening he would be very likely to enjoy.

    Other things that same girl did for me involved bringing over groceries to make dinner for us when I told her she could come visit… yet her grocery bags also contained a pack of cashews for me (because she had noticed I like eating them), as well as a bottle of sparkling cider that would serve as our champagne that night (because she had noticed I do not drink alcohol).

  7. I cannot think of a single romantic thing which I would particularly care about, or which I would enjoy more than it would stress me out.

    Maybe he simply has other interests.

  10. Anything that shows you thought about him outside of yourself. Do or say something just for him, that doesn’t necessarily reap you any immediate benefits.

Leave a Reply
You May Also Like