Did I come off desperate for kissing a guy on second date?
Did I scare him off by kissing him unexpectedly after 2nd date?
Hi guys! I, 30 (f), went on a second date with a guy 32 (m) and I thought we were having a nice time. Our first date was at a bar and we had a drink and the second date we went on a walk at the park. I thought we were having a good time. We laughed and talked and enjoyed each others company. I thought he was giving me signs that he was interested. He smiled at me and gave good eye contact and i told him I thought he was cute and he said the same to me. At the end of the date he was saying how we could do something during the week and I said absolutely! Maybe grab a bite to eat or something.
And as he walked me to my car and I gave him a hug, I kind of looked at him quickly and said kiss? And kissed him fast on the lips. I definitely caught him off guard and he just smiled and left. I feel so embarrassed that I did that. It was definitely awkward and I can’t help but think that came off desperate. I don’t think I am but of course i am looking for that special someone!
He didn’t text me after the date until about 10pm and he said he doesn’t see us clicking romantically and that it was a nice girl and he wishes me luck in dating.
I’d say I’m definitely an attractive woman m so I know it wasn’t that he wasn’t attracted to me. Anyway..what do you guys think? I’m definitely upset and embarrassed and some words off encouragement and advice would be nice. I definitely took an ego hit. Thank you! 🙂
3 comments
If I’m on a date with a girl I like, I **want** to kiss her, even if she’s the one who makes the first move. I don’t think he was really feeling you.
That sounds very cute and I don’t think you did anything wrong. It just seems he wasn’t feeling anything romantic towards you and I do not think it’s because of a kiss – a kiss couldn’t change his sympathy into dislike. Could it? For me it has always been a relief to hear that a guy just wasn’t interested in my physically, because then it’s nothing I could have done.
The last paragraph sounded very egotistical with how you said it.
You can be attractive and have many guys not attracted to you. Obviously he wasn’t. But that could be for any number of reasons besides how attractive you may be in general