Hi, I am 19M.
I was in a relationship not a long time ago and the dynamic was gentle femdom. I loved it so freaking much, just being caressed and all. It was really really sweet and fun.
Tho now she is out of town so we had to end it sadly.
Reality hits me and now I have a chastity kink and femdom kink.
Another reality hits me that people around me have a single mindset of maledom or vanilla.
I kinda feel ashamed now for even having my sweet own fun and kinks. I don’t know if all this makes me feel less of a man.
I have no idea either if I would get to know any more women who might be into stuff I am into and if they talk to me about stuff we both like, I feel like she might just laugh at me or something :/
Help me out peeps, how should I feel or control my feelings about this??
4 comments
u shouldnt feel bad abt it everyone has their own likes and stuff. u shouldnt try to control it if it makes u happy. just b urself and im sure someone will come along who shares ur passion
Don’t feel ashamed. Having a chastity kink and be a sub to dominate female doesn’t make you less of a man.
I say follow your kinks now. Yes some women will not be interested in femdom and chastity but that’s just how it is. If you ignore your kinks now when your 40 you will feel like you missed many opportunities and kick yourself in the ass.
Please never be ashamed of what you like. You will regret repressing yourself many years down the line and may start doing things you don’t want just because some people expect you to be someone who you are not. Don’t waste your time being somebody else, be yourself. Also, it will take some time to find self love and acceptance for who you are, it’s a process most people go through! Good luck <3
You should try to go to munches, maybe find some on fetlife or use Feeld. Once you surround yourself with kinky people, you’ll fit right in. Never be ashamed of what you enjoy, as long as you’re not hurting someone else.