more of a laughable situation than actually frustrated. i (25f) have been casually seeing two different guys, maybe 2-3 dates in to each one so far. the dates seem to go great with both of them, they’re attractive and if it’s been 3 dates i can only hope they think i’m attractive. and i have yet to be kissed!
i am baffled, because most men i’ve been on dates with usually try for a kiss on the first date (not saying that’s wrong or right it’s just what i’m used too), or at least hold my hand or something !
now i will say that one of the guys has made it pretty clear that he is looking for something pretty casual, maybe more of a fwb. which is totally fine, so the last time we hung out we got to third base WITHOUT KISSING, what an awkward experience. any thoughts on why someone would avoid kissing while being okay with other forms of intimacy ?
i think the other guy is just shy and taking his time.
any input would be appreciated, i do brush my teeth regularly so hopefully it’s not bad breath 😂
and while i haven’t made the move myself which i’m sure some will suggest i should do, i’ve made it pretty clear i wanted to kiss them, like pulling them closer or running my fingers through their hair. nothing 🙃
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You seem perfectly fine to me.. brushing teeth was imp detail to add 😅 maybe you are seeing robots instead of humans? I kid ofc. Maybe give a direct hint of how you find kissing really romantic.. maybe one of the them might actually clue in to that.
I’d suggest not following the by the third date we have to kiss type of stuff, it’s stressful. Go at a pace that works for you and whoever you’re with. I’ve never been kissed, I’ve been dating this guy for a month now and we went on a fourth date last night and that was the first time we almost kissed. We ended up not kissing but going on a fifth date this week, it might happen or it might not who knows. Don’t rush things, when the moment is right you’ll both know. You’ll both just lean it without even really thinking about it if the moment is right. Don’t kiss anyone though if you aren’t feeling it, you’ll know when its right.
Excuse yourself to go to the bathroom and take a breath mint or put some lip balm on, or just to take a breather before going for it if you need to, don’t stress yourself out.