Hi! New here and would just like some insight. I’m 23F and have a 9 month old. SO is 32M. We’re having some sexual troubles and I don’t know what else to do or say. Before the baby we would have sex multiple times a day, now it’s maybe once or twice a week and thats on me. I really don’t find sex or masturbation important to me but it is for him. I let him do his thing and he gets off easy. I dont get off from it, just getting head does it for me. He says it’s boring because we only do either missionary or doggy but I am too out of shape to try what he wants and it makes my thighs burn (me on top) from the one time I did try. I dont know what to do. Any advice how to make it better for him or do we just give up? I find it boring and dont need it, he thinks its boring but needs it.
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Don’t have sex you don’t want to have. It will ultimately make you resentful and make things 10x worse.
Having kids can put a huge damper on women’s libido. This is something that sometimes takes years to get back to normal, if it ever does.
It’s not only a postpartum thing but also simply a reaction to the MUCH higher levels of stress and anxiety an infant invariably introduces in to the lives of new parents.
Did you talk to your SO about how you feel regarding your body? I know it difficult to accept your shape and form after childbirth but you don’t know how he feels about it and trust me girl its not the same as you. Him initiating it 2 3 times a week means he is into you. Talk to your man. And you are more than just the body, you’re still beautiful! Although in a different shape then before. Embrace it, love yourself the way you are right now. Don’t let it hold you back..