Everytime I lay with my partner she tells me I damaged her, hurt her insides and she isnt able to sit down without a pillow for days until she heals.. We have been together 10 y. Both were virgins when we did it first time. Do I need to sign up for sex college or watch more porn to fix it? Both are deadly if she finds out. Whats the safer way to do it so she enjoy the good pain not the bad one!?
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It could be rough skin causing the bleeding if so try a condom. If it’s size idk how to help you there
I suggest maybr starting with lube, and going fron there.
I don’t know what sex college is, but it doesn’t sound that great, but don’t use porn. Porn is absolutely 100000% the wrong way to learn about sex. Just don’t even think about it.
Lots of foreplay, so she’s well lubricated. If that doesn’t happen naturally, there’s nothing wrong with some outside help (water based lube).
If it’s because you’re hung like a horse, try one of [these](https://ohnut.co/)
Always use lots of lube. Foreplay is also very important, not only des it help with lubrication, it also helps her pelvic muscles relax. Associating sex to pain probably make her nervous, which can contract vaginal muscles and prevent her from getting wet. Start soft and slow, be attentive to her reactions, and avoid going deep enough to hit her cervix, which is painful to most women.
Knowing which part of her vagina hurts can also help narrow down the list of possible causes
Edit: porn won’t do you any good in this situation. Taking time to talk openly, and experiment together is a better option.
This has been going on for 10 years? She needs to see a doctor, not seek advice from strangers on the internet.
Okay, so lets walk it through.
Unless your dick has barbs, it is not the direct culprit. I am just going to list the potential items that might need tending to:
1. Hygiene — don’t be offended, but is your dick clean?
2. Arousal — is she getting aroused by foreplay and/or clitoral stimulation before penetration? The vagina becomes internally erect to a certain fashion, and produces its own lubricants when aroused, and its uncomfortable if that doesn’t happen. It’s also generally advised to go slowly upon first penetration, and ask before going really fast to make sure if feels good
3. Lubrication — lubrication is likely needed. I would try a few different brands to see what you both like, some are sticky or dry out easily or could even burn
4. Communication — this goes both ways, she needs to tell you when it is becoming uncomfortable, and you need to listen and respect it. Orgasms are important, but it’s better to call a timeout or try later than to incur damage
She needs to go to the doctor.
Is it the length or the girth that’s bothering her? If it’s the length, get something called the OhNut. It’s like a rubber donut that sits around the base of your shaft to limit the depth of penetration. If it’s the girth, try switching lubes
I have no fucking idea what is going on here but probably whatch less porn if you even ask this question.
Make sure she doesn’t have endometriosis or PCOS. Both can cause pain associated with sex.
They also increase your chances of uterine cancer if gone untreated. She needs to be checked out ASAP. Nobody who is sexually active should go through 10 years without consulting a doctor.
You big monster, cut your dick in half