tmi time <3
so my bf and i have been together for 5 months and are both 17. we haven’t gotten to sex yet as we are both virgins so I’m talking handjobs and blowjobs here. for a good four months he would finish relatively quickly , say within like a songs time (idk I’m trying to quantify lmfao) and even once said I’m exceptionally good at head. but recently he’s either say taking an extra 5-10 mins are just not finishing at all. we always have this little joke thing during aftercare where we would ask at the end how we did and if we did anything bad/really good just so we could communicate well and he would always say it was amazing and it felt really good. i asked him if it was me that was not doing as well and for a few weeks he said he thinks it is him and that he gets nervous or just cant finish , even though it feels really good. but then about 2 weeks ago he said maybe it might be me not doing it well and when I would follow through with what he says to make it feel better, it is still the same outcome. I’ve also tried to be a bit kinkier or doing more foreplay to turn him on more. when I try and breach the subject he gets all embarrassed and looks away despite me comforting him (I just want to make sure he’s ok plus want him to feel good). I’m not sure what else to do. he’s been getting weird as well recently and seeming much more snappy at me or like he’s not as interested in me. i don’t know where to work on this if he wont cooperate. he has been having really bad exam anxiety but I don’t feel like it is that, he’s a lot more distant and less communicate ish when we used to be really good. i will go out of my way to ask him how to fix it every time it happens and dont get much in return. plus we haven’t been seeing each other as often (maybe only 1 or 2 times a week, used to be 3 or 4) due to work so I thought it would be easier to finish due to that.
tldr – boyfriend suddenly not finishing from bjs and handjobs despite not changing anything and wont work with me to figure out how to help him finish
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It may be he doesn’t know. I mean, you said it yourself “Not finishing despite not changing anything”.
We men can “grow aware” of repeated patterns sexually speaking and become “numb” when things don’t change at all. I do see you made the effort to switch it up and he’s not making an effort to figure out how to help him finish, someone needs to break the ice and start talking if you take the relationship seriously.
Is it possible he’s getting more curious about sex? Is he expecting you two to have sex already given how much you’ve shared sexually by now?
Stick your finger in his ass and hit the prostate
If you want to see him take even longer, talk about having kids
2 possibilities 1 he’s gay or 2 he’s seeing someone else. Just possibilities to explore. It could be something stress related too.