Hello all! So, I’m in a rut. I tried once a few months back to give my partner a blow job, but I wasn’t good at it. I kept gagging and couldn’t do anything more than a few seconds. But he really enjoyed it and I wanna surprise him with another one. Any pointers? Thank you in advance!

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  1. The way to give people amazing blowjobs is to communicate with them and get them actively talking while you do it.

    Everyone has their own unique preferences, some people love gagging and gasping, others hate it. You need to ask him what he likes and do that.

    Try to get it to feel like a game of “hotter, colder” where you keep trying different stuff and he can tell you what he likes more or less.

  3. You don’t have to deep throat for it to be an amazing blow job, half the fun of receiving one is the fact that the other person wants your dick in their mouth. Hard to explain but it’s kinda more sexy to think that this person really WANTS your dick in their mouth rather than they’re doing it for you to be nice to you, which is kind of a bit dull.

    Even if we know it’s probably not true it’s we fellas like to imagine that you want us and you can’t resist us, so playing up on that is very sexy.

    As far as technique goes watch some gay or trans porn no one knows how to suck dick better than a dick owner!

    Remember though, you WANTING the D is what we find sexy

  4. Just keep good rhythm and use your hands to stroke the bottom part of the shaft so you don’t have to gag. You can also use your hands to give your mouth a break. Like I said the rhythm is the important part. If you want to work on taking it deeper, do it slowly.

    Also my ex used to do this thing where she would rub my tip on her tongue and it felt amazing. Especially the bottom of it. You have to be careful not to overdo it tho.

    Good luck!

  5. For me it helps when I’m not thinking about it too much for me I feel I do better when we’re doing 69 rather then just me giving

  6. Practice. My wife still gets tired but she’ll let me thrust, I don’t face fuck but just shallow thrusts, and that’s enough to get me to cum. Also no such thing as too sloppy. If you don’t have to clean both your selves up then you’re not doing it right. Also slurping sounds and moans help. My wife doesn’t fake anything, but she’ll moan cause she knows it turns me on and gets me off faster. Guys are visual creatures. Also ask him what he wants. I don’t know a single guys who’s be upset if his wife/gf/whatever asked what could do to suck their dicks better.

  7. First of all, I don’t deep throat (my partner u/LostAd6009 can confirm). That doesn’t mean he doesn’t absolutely fucking love my blow jobs.

    My biggest and best advice for blow jobs is enthusiasm. And by enthusiasm I do not mean ACT enthusiastic. What I mean is BE enthusiastic. It’s possible that you may be able to trick a man into thinking he has an enthusiastic partner until he actually has an enthusiastic partner. Once you’ve had someone who genuinely loves doing it, I belive you can tell the difference. He’ll have to confirm on that one, but I suspect he’ll agree that he can tell there’s a difference.

    I LOVE giving blow jobs (specifically to a guy i care about). Half or more of the time it’s not even a out him. I’m just enjoying exploring and playing with his dick. There are times I genuinely don’t pay attention to u/LostAd6009’s reactions. Because I’m busy enjoying myself. I mean…I ALSO want him to have fun (and there are times during a BJ where I will specifically pay attention to him and his reactions) but I do it for me.

    Instead of trying to create a performance, just treat that dick like it’s your own personal thing to experiment and have fun with. Lick it, make out with it, fondle it, etc. But stop making it a performance and learn to enjoy yourself. For one thing, you’re more likely to do a thing often if you enjoy doing it. For another thing, when you explore this way, you’re more likely to find a variety of things that feel good for him that you wouldn’t have discovered if you were trying to replicate a porno. And finally, sex should be physically comfortable for you. If it’s physically comfortable for you, you’ll be able to do it for longer.

    One final thing that I’ll add. When you enjoy playing with a guy’s dick (not pretending but actually enjoying) it’s a HUGE ego boost to him. u/LostAd6009 can tell me if I’m wrong here, but I suspect if I offered him the choice between me giving him blow jobs like a porn star, and me deeply loving his dick…he’s going to choose the latter one.

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