Is it wrong to just be on the pill for raw sex?

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1. Is it silly? No. You do you. I bet a lot of women go on the pill solely for that reason. I myself am in the same situation as you – I have no problems that the pill could fix, but the reason I’m considering going on the pill is same as yours. I haven’t made any decision yet, though, so that’s all the input I can give.

2. If that’s the *only* reason then it might be a little silly. Raw sex is fun, but if the negative effects of birth control pills outweight that fun then you may just want to stick with condoms.

   Of course, birth control pills (when properly taken) protect from pregnancy much better than just condoms. So that’s something to take into consideration as well.

3. Every woman I have ever been with (before I had a vasectomy) was either on the pill or had some other form of birth control in order to have condom-less sex and none of them had issues with their form of birth control. The pill, IUDs, depro, whatever. These were all LTRs so STDs wasn’t a concern.

4. Its a great option if the pill agrees with you. The sex is so much better unprotected, but you still have to manages STI risks.

5. It’s fine to do that. I did that too. But in hindsight I wish I had talked to a professional to recommend an option just as safe but with less hormones like mini pills or spiral copper IUD. I found out only when I stopped the pill that the side effects were very strong.

6. I’m baffled. What other purpose does the contraceptive pill serve other than to facilitate natural sex without a condom? Surely that is its only purpose? Or do you mean as a comparison to other contraceptives such as the coil or implant or injection?

   EDIT: Sorry, I see you are talking about side effects. I’m afraid you won’t know for sure until you start. Every woman I have been with in 30+ years of sexual activity has been on the pill at some point, and the side effects have been extremely varied, from nothing, to moderate. Necessitating a change of pill type, and sometimes a change of contraceptive type all together. Monitoring the effects and check-ups along the way are important. I grew up in a country where it was illegal to supply contraception except by a doctor to married couples, so the pill was the easiest thing to get hold of. Not always legally. So check-ups were impossible and women had bad experiences not being able to take it under proper medical supervision.

7. I’ve thought of this from the other side. I would kind of prefer to not use condoms anymore, my partner doesn’t care either way, but I don’t wanna get snipped.

   There is no right or wrong here, just which option is more important to you personally.

8. It’s perfectly fine to be on contraception for the purpose of contraception.

9. Some cycle tracking apps if used properly are just as effective as BC. If you plan on getting on BC I strongly suggest a copper IUD it is the safest form of BC. There are so many studies that prove the extreme negative harm of hormonal contraceptives. I’d be happy to link studies.

   I work with very well versed doc’s in female and male endocrine system.

10. That is literally the reason the pill was first invented. It is contraception first and foremost, even if fairly common to be used to help with other things.

11. My SO and I did that for years. She was religious about taking it though. She had an alarm on her phone go off at the same time everyday to make sure she took it as it was supposed to be.

    One thing to note though – if you ever get on or take another medication (I know some antibiotics in particular) double check that it does not mess with the effectiveness of the birth control. Pharmacists are great for that info.

12. My ex and I did this for ten years. It was great

13. I’m on the pill only to prevent pregnancy. Went through 12 years of secondary infertility before the 2nd crotch goblin made a surprise appearance. Love them both – but I’d rather no more surprised and I’m not giving up my cream pie status after 12 years.

14. I had good skin and cramp free periods before BC. Didn’t mess with any of that. Birth control is there to be birth control. Going on it was the best decision I’ve made. Keep an eye on your mood, but besides a few months of mood swings I didn’t have any other side effects. You should both get tested for STDs and wait a week after taking the pill, and then you’re good! I’ve been taking the pill for 5 years now and have used a condom <5 times and I’ve had a lot of sex. Never had an issue. Take your pill regularly! (Within the same hour every day) I would keep a plan B on hand on case you miss a pill and don’t want to worry about it.

15. It’s not silly in the slightest. It’s incredibly smart to be thinking about what protection you’re using, especially if you want to go raw. Pulling out is always an option. For me personally, it’s incredibly hot when my partner finishes in me when going raw so it’s important for me to be on birth control because I’m not ready for kids.

    I’d recommend talking with your gyno about your birth control options as part of your research, from the pill to an IUD to the shot to hormonal vs non-hormonal. They’ll be able to give information and what they would recommend.

16. So there are newer forms of the pill that are designed not to have side effects. I just got put on BC because it would be dangerous for me to get pregnant with some of the medication I’m taking.

    Since starting birth control I have not seen any side effects. No weight gain, no sore boobs or acne. I would speak to your Dr. also see if you would be able to get coverage for the newer versions of the BC pills as they are quite expensive, so worth it but maybe not so much if you can get the same benefit with an IUD for less $$$

17. Nope not silly. If you are okay with the risks then just do it.

18. The better question is what’s stopping you?

    My husband got a vasectomy to support his breeding kink.

19. I’m literally going to get an IUD today for that reason I want to enjoy sex with my husband without the worry of another baby (we have 2). I just want to be able to be in the moment with him. The more important thing is that your relationship will be openly discussed so that if there is a potential for multiple partners that you can remain safe from sti.

20. It’s not silly. I was on nexplanon for years for this exact reasoning. I have now been off birth control for almost a year and I do not want to go back. I feel so much better off of it. So my boyfriend knows he has to wrap it until he gets a vasectomy. Which he is totally down to do.

21. I don’t think wanting to be on a contraceptive for it to work as a contraceptive is silly at all. Being on the pill doesn’t absolutely guarantee the prevention of pregnancy, and the information packet in them explains how the pill compares to other methods of contraception.

    Because of my circumstances I still use a condom with the pill to be extra cautious. I went on the pill to regulate my period (bleeding heavily for two months straight is no fun haha), but I know some people who went on the pill for raw sex. Some people also use a birth control implant instead of the pill.

    As for side effects, I wouldn’t worry too much about those. My OBGYN and I worked well together figuring out what brand was best and adjusting my dosage to help with cramps. The only noticeable side effects I noticed were a change in appetite, clearer acne besides the week of my period, and an increase in breast size.

    A friend of mine went through a much rougher journey finding a pill that worked for her, but she and her OBGYN worked together and found her something that works for her. In fact, it led her to want to become an OBGYN herself with how much her OBGYN helped her.