Just as the title says…..
We had taken a break a couple of years ago and when we reunited it was like our sex drive with each other just aren’t in sync anymore.
I feel as though my partner doesn’t really want to “excite me” like before. It’s straight to the point. “Babe, maybe you should give me some head” “we should fuck” or will just get behind me and start humping me 😒. I get to the point where I’m not really even interested in sex that much anymore because it seems so one sided. Idk what happened but even when he once in a while tries to give me head, I don’t like it – it doesn’t feel good to me. He’s not gentle and doesn’t take his time and I feel like when I try to talk to him about any of this – immediately gets offended. He says he’s into BDSM but please, he has no education other than the hardcore porn he watches, so naturally he’s just rough in the bedroom because that’s what’s HES into. I can be into that sometimes, but we have to ease into a scene. FOREPLAY IS A THING FOR A REASON.
Idk how to talk to him about it without him getting offended .
This morning for example: he tried taking my pants off in bed and immediately started choking me (which I am into but I literally JUST woke up at 8 fucking AM) then kept demanding me to “slap my pussy” with his dick so he could “put it in” and because I clearly wasn’t into it he turned around frustrated and hasn’t been speaking to me
I know he probably thinks it’s a me problem and I think it’s him problem
Advice? How do I talk to someone without making them feel embarrassed
1 comment
You need to talk to him about it. Him getting offended or not is secondary here. You need to put up some boundaries/rules, because your pleasure is just as important as his. You deserve it and he should see it the same way if he respects and loves you.