hi! Any advice on achieving orgasms and turning myself on solo? I used to sext with strangers on omegle and that really helped with the turning on part but i realised that i feel used after (because the guy will usually cum and leave right after with no regard whether i cummed too).
I will also sometimes feel sad about not having a partner after these sexting sessions because i want an emotional connection with the sex but of course that’s not gonna happen with strangers.
I still have horny needs however (LMAO) so
I’m tryna look for alternative ways to achieve orgasms, maybe in a more solo way where i don’t need to rely on anyone else.
I tried browsing the nsfw reddit threads where guys show their dicks and girls show their boobs and stuff and while that turns me on slighly, it’s not nearly enough to get an actual orgasm
I’m trying to avoid porn (because of all the negative stuff on mental health and self image) i read about it
so i’m not sure what else i can use?
I’m open to erotica/texts and stuff too but i don’t know of any good ones. Is 50 shades of grey a good one? LMAO
I’ve been rubbing my clit for so many days and i just cant get myself to orgasm and it’s frustrating because it’s the best feeling ever?
I’ve also tried fantasising myself with the imaginary future love of my life and that works to a certain extent BUT it makes me feel more lonely because i know i’m single LOL
any tips on what i should do?
Also,, i’m gonna buy a vibrator soon for my clit so i hope that helps as well 🙂 – but ig i need help on how to get into the horny headspace alone haha!
thanks! <33
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Have you tried erotic literature?
I (F39) found laying in a dark room, completely naked and slowly touching myself all over, was my go too starting point as a 20 something year old. I wouldn’t always find it exciting or fun at the start, but after a while, I couldn’t stop myself. I would just concentrate on myself, how good it was feeling and how hot it was to be completely naked, writhing around on my bed pleasuring myself. By the end of the session, I would realise an hour or more had passed, I was so very wet and very very satisfied. Oh and don’t forget to edge, it makes it better in the end.
With the vibrator, hell yes, get one. You will not be disappointed. If you can afford it though, get a good quality one to start with, don’t buy cheap as they are noisy and not as good. Do some research or ask?
Good luck
It sounds like you’re getting a bit frustrated. Don’t do that (pls).
There’s nothing really wrong with porn so long as you don’t get addicted and start having unreasonable expectations from sex. Everything in porn is designed to get you (or more likely a guy) off. Written erotica is similar. Watching/reading porn is fine and there is plenty of less-porny porn (more romantic or more woman oriented).
If you’ve gotten used to masturbating a particular way, it will be difficult to undo that (a bit like male death grip syndrome). This will be difficult though and it’s probably why you’re feeling frustrated (again, don’t be)
I’m not certain it applies to you, but jusdt like some girls cannot orgasm from penetration, some struggle to orgasm from clitoral stimulation alone. It might be worth trying penetration instead, or even a combination of the two.
Reddit is really good for porn, better than it sounds like you’ve seen. Have a look at r/nsfw411 – more specifically the wiki – to pick and choose subreddits. There are even subs for written porn.
Fifty shades is one of the classic books, but when I’m horny, I’m not really into reading a couple of chapters to get to the sex. Literotica and Wattpad both have lots of stories (of varying quality) and have decent search features. Wattpad has lots of fan fiction, Literotica has more regular stories. Both are good.
Vibrator is a GOOD idea.
Back in my day we had this thing called [Literotica](https://www.literotica.com/stories/). It’s a mixed bag, but if you are willing to dig deep enough odds are that you’ll find something that you are into.