My Problem is that I rarely like guys, I rarely meet someone I could start something with, someone I’m attracted to and with whom I also feel a connection and are compatible.
An even bigger one is that when I finally meet someone, I like and it doesn’t work out I get obsessed with them and can’t stop thinking about them.
I had a boyfriend before, but I didnt even like him that much and we broke up eventually. This was 2 years ago. I met guys in the meantime and went on dates but nothing. No attraction nothing. No kiss in 2 years. Then I met this guy in summer but it didn’t work out, since he isn’t even from my country and stuff, but I was crazily attracted to him and we had a connection, nothing I ever experienced before. I still think about him, after 5 months. Went on some dates, but nothing.
I really want to fall in love and have a relationship, but I feel like it’s never going to happen.
And I think I developed this crazy infatuation for that guy that isn’t going away and its making me suffer, because I know that A long time will pass, till I find someone else I’m attracted to and like.
Anyone have similar experiences? What are your thoughts?
I’m f,23.
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I’m the same way, it’s difficult for me to connect with people whether it’s for relationships or friendships. I’m happy I’m dating a great guy now but the last time I found a guy I liked was in 2019. It’s very difficult because it can be lonely in between relationships. Plus for me it seems like no matter how much inner work and healing I do I can’t completely get over my ex until I find a new guy. It sucks but when I like a guy I REALLY like a guy and it feels like they were worth the wait because they’re so wonderful
Same, no advice, sorry. Aside from meeting people in person, where you can get to know them and develop chemistry before dating. But no one seems to do that anymore.
I’m the same way in the sense that I don’t connect with everyone easily (friendship, relationship or coworker). I have connected with people so I know I’m capable of those feelings. When there is a connection, I know (to me) it’s special because it’s not something that happens often.
Are you possibly a demisexual and unaware of it? That would explain what you are describing.