(23F) I know that this probably is a common post here, but I just want some specific advice and want to see what other people do/experience. So basically I don’t entirely know how to get myself to orgasm. I have before, but it’s always inconsistent and I can’t seem to replicate it again. When I was younger, I grew up in a very religiously manipulative, sex-shaming situation and never learned much about my body, BUT, I used to be able to get myself to orgasm through syntribation when I was a teenager. (Obviously I let the religious shame control me for far too long, and that’s how I ended up a 23 year old woman who can’t figure out her body…) However, now I can no longer do that and I’m not sure how to get myself to orgasm. My clit seems both too sensitive, but not sensitive at the same time. Sometimes if i’m trying to O, or If a guy is trying to help me, it feels SO violently overstimulating to the point that I can feel it down my legs, and it’s so much that it doesn’t feel like it’ll lead to me orgasming. Or, other times, I have a pretty decent clitoral hood, and If i try and avoid the overstimulation by rubbing over my clitoral hood, then I literally feel nothing. Why is there no in between???
So basically my question is, how do I orgasm? Any advice on what other people do to orgasm would help, or any tips/tricks…. A self help manual 😂😅. Thank you in advance!
Also, I have less difficulty orgasming alone, as sporadic as it is. BUT, I have never orgasmed with a partner, even if it feels really good… I just can’t seem to let go in my mind. Any advice on this? I have a guy friend // FWB, and bless his soul, he tries so hard, but I just don’t know HOW.
Thank you again!
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Try pushing down from the outside, like completely indirect pressure.
> I just can’t seem to let go in my mind
That is the key, the hump as I have heard it called, men have it as well. In my case, during oral, and it varies based on the person. Either and very relaxed or a puff of cannabis often helps.
Well, unless they all were lying, my past GFs or my wife now say they are able to orgasm usually when they are riding me and when I gently push them lower so that I can be as deep as possible they usually can orgasm via that way. I am average sized….
I would say, you should just relax and not keep thinking about it. Too much pressure can cause you to not orgasm possibly too you know….
I think u should try a different angle of attack. If ur clit is too sensitive, maybe try exploring ur gspot or ur deepspot. U might even find it changes how clit feels to the rest of ur body
You might have a medical problem. Talk to a doctor perhaps.
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Try syntribating while your partner is fucking u from the back (laying face down on the bed)
if you’re comfortable with it, maybe try a vibrator but not directly on your clitoris — what i do is kinda have the vibrator a little to the side of the clitoris and then slide the vibrator over to keep a flap of skin in between the clit and the vibrator
also i use a bullet vibrator for this usually – it’s nice and small and pretty straightforward to use 🙂