The for of us met in middle school and were best friends for 3 years until I moved to a different country. Since then I’ve only visited once (2 years after I left) and it was great. Im visiting again this summer and they told me they were planning a trip to a different city. They said it was “just the 4 of us for now (me and 3 of them)”. My parents are quite strict (and theirs aren’t) and so I was waiting for the right time to ask them to confirm for the trip. They told me that they would wait for me to confirm. The next day, I was talking to another friend, who told me that the 3 of them already booked tickets. I asked them about why they booked tickets when they said they would wait for me and they replied “oh we just booked them for us because they were running out but you can book tickets on your own at the same time and we can all go together”. A few hours later, I find out they booked tickets for the trip a few days before I arrived in my home country (16 hour flight away). I asked them why they booked tickets without asking me about what dates I’d be available. They replied saying that they’d change the dates. Come to find out, they are inviting another friend (that I don’t know) on the trip. This new friend is not available on the dates that I’m in the country. Initially they asked me to take a flight directly to the city we were visiting 2 days after they reach there, which is extremely inconvenient as I’m forced to go on a trip for 2 less days while also being jet lagged. When I refused saying that it was too inconvenient and asked them to change the dates, they said that their new friend already confirmed so they’re not going to change the dates (I asked my mom the next day and she allowed me to go). When I asked why they didn’t ask about dates before they booked tickets, they replied “how does it matter if we ask before or after”. I was extremely upset and they all got extremely defensive and refused to be held accountable and did not apologize for ruining our plan in favour of a completely new person. Even after the argument, I sent one of them a text wishing them fun on their trip and they still haven’t responded after a week. Should I continue this friendship with them?
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I’m sorry to tell you, OP, but these girls are not your friends. Or at least, not real/quality friends that you want to keep. It sounds like this was a rough trip to try and coordinate between everyone, but it seems they really didn’t make much of an effort to coordinate with you so you could be there. Also, when you confronted them, no one seemed to be apologetic or remorseful. Real friends would’ve tried to make it work for everyone, and at bare minimum, would’ve cared to address your feelings. I know you’ve known them for a long time, but you definitely deserve better. I’m sorry.
Edit: typo