So I (21M) have been masturbating for about 10 years now, I think. I used to masturbate pretty much once a day, never got in the way of school, usually did it night when no one else was around.
It started with just a vanilla sex “video” (the first thing I searched up was “porn games”, I watched this animation by Akabur on mysexgames.com. Technically it was more of a video than a game even though it was on a games website. But I digress).
Then it got more depraved over the years. Deepthroating, then a few months on r/degradingholes before realizing I’d rather treat people with respect. Then onto bondage. Then r/cumflation. 10 years later and I’m thinking of getting a toy but I look back and think “am I going to spend the next 10 years chasing the next hot thing that gets me hard? Just anything that can get me the dopamine? Should I get a toy or should I try to stop or slow down?”
**Summary:** Masturbating isn’t a problem. It’s not an addiction that gets in the way of life but I’m thinking “spending $100 on toys just so I cum a little bit harder?” Am I going too far? If not, is a toy actually worth it? If I do get one, it won’t be one, it’ll be a few buttplugs, lube, a few Tenga toys. The price adds up.
P.S. first time here, sorry if I fucked something up. I read the rules and Faq and searched for this but couldn’t find exactly what I’m after
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You are finding your own kinks. You can ignore them or play with them, that’s up to you. There are no toys that can get you addicted or something like that
Toys are fun. Masturbation is relaxing. Maybe have a more pro-women porn collection. It’s not the masturbating that’s a problem it what you’re masturbating to.
You don’t want to re-wire your brain to do things real woman won’t/can’t do.
Here’s a toy you can get that will SERIOUSLY surprise you in ways you never thought imaginable… Sorry, but this toy will be expensive too…
Find a HUMAN! They have mouths, hands, holes… Some will have more skills than others. These are all the amazing tools a human has for toys.
Be warned, a human also cones with emotions, both yours and theirs. Emotions can be serious enhancers of pleasure…
I would suggest getting a toy, a fleshlight or something similar.
It makes, in my experience, viewing more authentic genres of porn, even something super vanilla like a girl teasing, a lot more interesting as you will essentially be placed on square one again when it comes to comfort and being able to control your ejaculation. (depends on what technique you have been using for over a decade).
There really is no downside to getting a toy, worst case scenario is that you find out that you are not sensitive at all and can use it to the same effect as your hand. Best case scenario is that you discover the lack of control and stimulation that closest resembles actual sex (obv not a 1to1 representation) and start getting more in touch with that.