I’m going to try keep this short:
I meet girl. We like each other. Talk religiously for 2 months over the phone since we were away on uni break in separate towns. Both confess strong strong feelings for each other (At one point, towards the end of the 2 months, she said she was falling for me). We finally meet up. Girl decides after 2 dates she isn’t ready for a relationship and needs to figure herself out but maybe something happens in the future. 2 months go by of us chatting every now and then to catch up etc and see each other through mutual friends a few times out in town. She sends text saying she just wants to stay friends. All the while I still like her a lot and can’t seem to get over her.
Do I just try and keep ignoring my feelings until maybe they disappear? Do I tell her? (I think this is a bad idea but what does Reddit say?). Do I try hook up with someone else and maybe that helps?
Don’t want to ruin my friendship with her because she’s amazing but at the same time I just can’t keep ignoring these feelings. It’s getting in the way of my studies and mental health. I’ve never felt this way about anyone before and I’ve been with enough people to know she’s different to the rest.
We’re both 20 btw.