Men that were very affectionate in the beginning of a relationship (like cuddling, holding hands, kissing, sharing a blanket, etc) what led you to change?

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1. There could be many reasons why someone might change their behavior in a relationship. It could be that they are no longer interested in the other person, they could be feeling overwhelmed or stressed, or they could simply be less affectionate by nature. If you notice a change in your partner’s behavior, it’s important to communicate with them to see what might be causing it.

2. For me it’s a lack of affection that kills the romance

3. You thought you were sneaky letting that fart out that one day.

4. If there is not reciprocity I begin to feel unloved and fatigued from the effort of my output.

5. No reciprocity does it every time. Not only that, but if we are always the ones initiating the touch (kiss, hug, hands, whatever), it begins to feel as though we’re constantly seeking approval from our girlfriend/wife. That makes us feel needy, so we tend to back off. Add to that, if our love language is touch, and initiation of touch is rejected, then it feels like our affection is being rejected, which leads nowhere good.

6. One ex was having an affair, so despite me trying to be affectionate she would often pull away. A terrible memory I have was when we were out on a date and I just tried to hold her hand, and she pulled back so she could text the guy she was cheating on me with(i was too oblivious to what was happening).

   Another ex would constantly accuse me of cheating or acting in bad faith for things that had nothing to do with her. Constantly being made out to be some monster sapped any sort of love and care I felt for her and no matter how hard I tried to make things work, she would always find something else that was ‘wrong’.

7. My wife stopped long before I did