hi so i’m (19F) and I am a little afraid of giving head. When I was younger I gave head to my bf at the time, he was very aggressively pushing my head down and it caused immense pain, and it was so bad my jaw ended up locking and I had to go to the hospital soooo not very fun. Since then, I’ve been sexually active but I have not given head out of fear it’s going to hurt me. However, I do want to learn how to do it in ways that doesn’t hurt my jaw so much. This part is mildly embarrassing but I have practiced on a banana just out of sheer curiosity if i could potentially suck without pain but after about 30 seconds my jaw starts to feel tight. I don’t want to end up never being able to give head to my partners and I’m not sure what I should do. It doesn’t help that i’m also not very experienced as to how to give head in general since that incident was my first (and last) time I’ve ever done it. Any tips or advice would be very appreciated
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It’s okay to take breaks, and it’s definitely okay for you to use your hand(s) a lot more. For your mouth you can focus on what’s comfortable and the rest you can jack off using saliva as the lube.
Suck just the head of it like a lollipop and swirl your tongue on the frenulum, and use your hand to stroke his cock really fast while doing this. It should ease up on your soreness and still make him have an orgasm and feel nice.
(51F) If it’s TMJ, it might be helpful to look into some physical therapy options. They work 😉
Have a great day Hun❣️
Tell him about your past and make sure he will be gentle and stop immediately when you tap your hand on his leg.
You really don’t need to be sucking. You just want the dick to be sliding in and out of your mouth. The pressure from your lips around him and your tongue against him along with the slipperiness from the saliva will be what feels good for him. You don’t need to be trying to generate any suction with your mouth. A little suction just on the head can be a nice way to switch things up a bit, but it’s not continuous suction. Just keep your jaw relaxed.
you might have some problems with your jaw to be honest. Have you seen a specialist? Sounds like lockjaw, but I am not the specialist.
Honestly, you can give beautiful head without ever putting his cock in your mouth. Use your hands, give kisses and licks, give his balls some love, and remember that his frenulum is closest thing he’s got to a clit. There’s an entire genre of porn focused on frenulum kisses and licks and it’s pretty damned hot.
My two hands and all his parts are usually part of every bj but usually we only do that as foreplay. I start with my hands and fingers. I don’t even put my mouth down there until he’s hard and then it’s lightly and still using my fingers and hands and exploring the surrounding areas. I might do rough and fast here and there as we get into it…a little gagging a little rubbing it across my lips and cheek but then change it up back to slow and teasing. I’m never just straight sucking his cock for 30 minutes or something.
A chiropractor can help with TMJ. I’ve got it myself. There’s an exercise you can do. Stick your tongue to the top of the roof of your mouth, then slowly open and close your jaw. That should build up strength.