Hi r/sex! I’m a huge fan of this community and wanted to share a little more on my (F) experience using a vibrator with my (M) partner during sex!
A few years ago (not that long, really) I made a post about having my first orgasm with a vibrator, and got handy enough to be able to reliably orgasm using one. I still find all aspects of sex super and sometimes even more enjoyable than “just” orgasming.
I was lucky enough to introduce my toys early in my current relationship, and wanted to share a little bit of what makes it SO enjoyable for me plus maybe learn a little more on what makes it cool for other women.
So, it goes without saying that I had never orgasmed with or near a guy before, and it was a very intimidating and vulnerable thing, to let myself “be seen” like that, let alone touched and interacted with. But my boyfriend really is an amazing guy, and encouraged me to just be comfortable, use my toys in whatever way I’m comfortable, and taking directions.
What really helped me get super turned on the first time was having him touch me and kiss me, especially on my neck and nibbling my ears, lots and lots of kissing, hair grabbing and even some veryyyyy light chocking. That really sent me over the edge.
It was and has been an amazing and bonding experience for us, and since then we moved on to vibrating cock rings and other toys. No shame, just fun and lots of O’s.