Men who took their 20’s way too seriously, what’s the advice for young men to not take their 20’s too seriously?

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1. Enjoy yourself to the fullest, don’t tie yourself down to marriage until your 30s. Spend money but also save it. Take risks, go on an adventure and again don’t get married too young

2. Not sure what this means … if you are in your 20’s then take the opportunity to party and travel and do the things you want to do if you can afford it and have the freedom. If not, then hopefully you can have time and money and enough freedom to do those things later on life.

3. Don´t take your life too seriously. It´s not all about work, career and money. When you can make ends meet, happiness is a decision and doesn´t require more wealth.

4. I’ll give you a counter argument,
   In my country most people go to the army, finish at 21.
   Have a long trip somewhere, work for a year or two in minimum wage jobs and then start getting their degree at 24ish.

   I’m 22, I work around 220 monthly hours while also getting my degree.
   I finished my military service and immediately started working.
   Working hard now will let me 1. Invest early and get my pension higher and better.
   2. I am working in the field that I want to stay in for the rest of my life, starting early gets me experience and a better paycheck than I would’ve gotten if I started like everyone at 28.

   Yeah its hard and I understand your 20s are your time to do mistakes and party but I definitely have time to do so and that’s what I’m doing.

   I want to be able to have better 30s and 40s.
   I want to be able to buy a house, I want to be able to take two vacations a year.

5. Worry less about saving money for retirement and more about finding a line of work that you could see yourself doing for 40 more years without blowing your brains out.

   Travel as much as possible.

   There is little risk in a decade of meaningless flings with women you have no emotional attachment to, but there is also no reward. Find out what you value in a partner, and don’t be afraid to commit once you find it. The advantage of pursuing a committed long term relationship in your 20s is you can really grow with someone and create a foundation to live happily together.

6. Not sure there’s such a thing as taking part of your life too seriously, but my universal advice to 20-somethings is this: you aren’t your job, you aren’t your relationships, and you aren’t your stuff. If you don’t know how to be happy outside of those things, those things won’t make you happy.

7. “Don’t take your 20s too seriously; trust me”

8. Honestly, assuming you don’t have the money to live comfortably already, “party while you’re young” is a terrible mentality. Late teens and 20’s is when your retirement fund is the most valuable and careers are made before 30. I had the same mentality in high school.

   The sooner you take like seriously, the earlier you can do what you want. I still have family that are 70+ working paycheck to paycheck, because they didn’t take life seriously. Now they’re too old to be taken seriously.

   That doesn’t mean don’t enjoy yourself, but I’d rather be overworked when I’m young so I can enjoy my money so much more when I’m retired.

9. Depends what seriously is.

   Spent the first 1/2 on an engineering degree and working 12 hour days then did MBA part time. Lived with 3-4 guys (good times) , had a girlfriend. After 20s, traveled Europe, SA, NZ, Kid, wife house.

   Retired early 40s. Purchased the ultimate luxury; time.

   Built on that base that the 20s gave me. If you have an opportunity, take it and don’t listen to those trying to sabotage you.

   No one really cares about your great party’s in your 20s.

10. Your 20s set up your 30s and 40s. Learn all that you can – and work hard and develop good habits. It pays off later.