TL;Dr
My partner and I have been together for a little over 5 years now. Since the beginning up until our 5yr mark we have been very happy together. I never felt cared for and safe around anyone until I met my partner. I’ve only had 1 other long term relationship before them and this is by far the healthiest, stable, and happiest relationship I’ve been in. They have helped me grow overall as a person. I’ve made every effort to make sure they feel same way they have made me feel; cared for, safe, and happy.
We moved in together a year ago. Throughout this whole year, we have established our day-to-day routine. I work overnights Mon-Fri, and they work during the day Mon-Fri. Thankfully they work from home – otherwise with our opposite schedules, we would only see each other on the weekends.
Though I thought with them working remotely every day would mean we see each other every day, that’s not the case. While they work, I will be asleep in the same room. When they get off work, I wake up and get ready to leave for work. So we don’t really get to talk to each other even though we’re together in the same room all day.
I’m conflicted on what the issue is. It’s the irony of spending all day every day together yet feeling like we’re drifting apart. On weekends they go stay with their family and every other weekend I would go with them. I would like to work on this because I still care about them very much and I believe they do too.
However, my concern is, what if the root cause of what we’re currently going through isn’t because we don’t spend enough time with each other, rather it might be something else.
Currently considering couples counseling.