So I have a fwb and we’re trying to figure out things we’d want to try. I’m open minded for the most part but I really want to be able to finish cause I never do. He asked me if I was into girls, to which I’m not, so I’m sticking to my guns with that one bc I know I wouldn’t feel too good afterwards. Does anyone have suggestions to help me reach pleasure or tips to try?
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Use a vibrator
Sounds like you are communicating, so see what you both want to explore and see if there are common interests or ideas, be open to explore but know your limits and make sure they aren’t crossed, if it’s just a fwb, enjoy yourself but be responsible and smart and safe
How long have you been seeing this person sexually? Personally it takes me a really long time to build enough trust to relax enough to reach orgasm. I can have casual sex and relatively enjoy myself, but it takes months for me to fully get out of my head and climax with someone else. I have to really trust that person. Otherwise sex is nice, but perfunctory. Have you tried talking to him about this issue? Maybe have a session where all the focus is on him giving you pleasure (not necessarily orgasm, because putting pressure on it can make it harder to achieve) and then swap roles. This way there are less distractions happening all at once.
Communication is pretty standard here. How do you usually climax? Ask him to do that. Maybe explore some fantasies you’ve had, see if he’s into it. The possibilities are endless here but, you guys have to be open and honest about desires, boundaries and what helps you reach the finish line.