When dating someone new how can you ask them to try dominating you when they’re usually more submissive?

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1. In my experience this played out for me by telling my ex a few times what I wanted (to be dominated), him saying he just likes me on top and that he’s just a sub which finally led to me being in the position of putting a toy up his butt after convincing myself I can be a dominant lady. I cannot be a dominant lady. So I would tell them what you’d like in bed and if they are unwilling to meet you halfway with a game plan then I’d leave otherwise you’re in for a world of dissatisfaction

2. If you want a good ice breaker you can start by doing with him/her a sex personality quiz. The results could be helpful to know each other and could be the opportunity to tell him/her your sexual desires.

3. Try roleplay before sex…

4. We talk about sex before having it most times, but some dates we just get into. Then we have those discussions afterwards or during the next date, and figure out compatibility of kinks and which things work for us.

   I’ve had very little success in getting a dommy person to be subby or vice versa. I let my dommy partners be dommy and my subby partners be subby. I’m also pretty bad at being dom myself, but I do try occasionally.

5. We’re both mostly sub but willing to play dominant. Just tell them you wanna try it, it can work wonders. Even though he’s not a dom, he can be so hot acting as such, and we both enjoy it.

6. Pull out your handcuffs, ball gag, and whip. If your partner can’t comply get single.