I (30sM) have a good friend (30sF). We’ve been good friends for about 2.5 years. We talk/text everyday. This is a platonic relationship with no current or past romantic feelings.
She’s been acting “weird” for the past few months. I’ve asked her about it and she said that nothing’s going on and that she would tell me if there was. She’s also been avoiding making any plans to hang out. We did meet up once last month she seemed a little off. Even though she was denying anything was going on, I thought she was dating somebody and keeping it a secret.
The other day she told me that she had something to tell me. She’d met a guy, been dating, and they practically live together already. They’ve been together for a little over 2 months now.
I happy for her that she’s dating. I’m feeling hurt because I feel like she lied to me. I also feel hurt because I know she was busy dating him and didn’t want to make time to hang out.
I know my feelings are valid. I don’t know if I “should” feel this way. She did keep this a secret from her other friends too.
I know she’s got her own life and that I’m not entitled to her time.
I don’t know if I should talk to her about how she made me feel. Or is should suck it up and just get over it on my own.
TLDR: I feel like my friend was lying to me. Do I talk to her about it?
2 comments
I think you have to just get over it. Sometimes people don’t want to reveal to others that they’ve started dating someone in the in case things don’t work out. She didn’t want to tell anyone, not just you, and that’s her prerogative.
I think the other comment is right, but also he could be a very jealous guy. Or maybe they moved in together too fast and she was anxious about being judged for that.