How do you respond to someone who pencils you in as a second option or just a plan?

7 comments

1. I dont 🙂

2. I’m cool with it cuz I have other partners and dates, but if I wasn’t poly I probably wouldn’t like it. I’d probably rather just plan for something later with a concrete time.

3. Eh, I always made sure they knew I was doing the same to them. They’re not prioritizing me, I won’t prioritize them.

4. I let them go.

5. I don’t wait for them. I acknowledge it, know that if they wanted to talk to me or pursue me, they would. So I just keep doing whatever I’m doing and that’s about it.

6. Depends on the person. I have good friends who are introverted and with health issues like myself. Plans always come with the caveat of “if I am feeling able to” so it’s not upsetting when one of us cancels.

   If someone is constantly willfully belittling my time like that, I just fade out from them.

7. Don’t lose your time, and let them go. Unless you wanna play, just treat that person as a second option too 😉