How do you deal with grudges you would like to move on from but can’t seem to?

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1. I started telling myself “you’re holding the grudge because the quality in the other person that made you so upset is a quality you see in yourself.”

   Helps forgive. Helps to self reflect.

   Everyone is on their own trajectory here on Earth. Everyone is in a state of constant perpetual growth. What they did to you likely wasn’t personal or as personal as you digested it to be.

   Look inward and heal. That doesn’t mean criticize yourself. Just hold yourself accountable and say “yes, I am feeling this feeling or have this trait too.”

   Truth is, no harm comes from holding yourself accountable, unlike what most people think.

2. I don’t. I can’t move on because the crazy woman won’t give up and she won’t let me go. It’s not that I want to hate her but she just hates my guts and want to “win”. She has to be the “best” or number one and when she isn’t…she causes trouble and drama.

   I try to ignore and not engage but a person can only take so much bullshit from someone.