How to gently critique/guide a new sexual partner

Hey everyone, so, I’ve been seeing someone new and the sex has been sooo bad. We met before a few years ago, and when we had sex, I was pretty much naive and inexperienced (I had only slept with one other person and that itself was bad), but now that I’ve started sleeping within him again, and in the meantime have collected a ton of experience (had 10 or so other partners) I can’t unsee how bad it is. Frankly, he has pretty bad death grip, and can only cum if you jerk him off in a certain way (super fast) or if he fucks me really hard (like porn-hard). The foreplay lasts 5 mins and consists of making out alone, and him fondling me like a high-schooler. He barely touches my pussy with his hands, and when he does, he’s just so rough I have to ask him to stop. He either finger-blasts me which I absolutely hate, or rubs my clit really hard with no sense of direction and sensuality. It drives me insane. So far, he hasn’t given me head either (we’ve had sex twice now, multiple rounds), but he expects multiple blow jobs, and pushes my head down. Even though I’m willing to give him head, this just feels so one-sided and I’m starting to get frustrated because before him, I had really good sexual partners that prioritized my pleasure and automatically gave me head before anything else. I think if I continue seeing him, this will absolutely drive me insane, so can anyone give me advice about how to let this man know how to do better?