So I (20M) have been daring my bf (21M) for almost 7 months. I love this man & I can honestly see myself spending the rest of my life with him…but theirs a but of problem in the bedroom. You see, he’s very well endowed down there, I’m talking 8in. (9in. On a good day) with a very strong upward curve, and while I can easily take it in the ass…the mouth is a different story😔. I can’t deepthroat his dick to save my life, which to him isn’t a problem because he knows how big he is and he says it doesn’t bother him and he constantlytells me that I give him the best head he’s ever had, but it bothers ME. I know that this will sound very stupid, but one of my biggest fears with this relationship is if we’re together for a very long amount of time and after all that time I STILL won’t be able to fully take/satisfy him.
What makes this even worse is the fact that my gag reflex is very stong…which doesn’t do me any favors. So whenever I do try to deepthroat him, I basically have to shove myself off of him (or him off of me depending on the position) in order to stop myself of throwing up. And to top it all off, sucking dick is my FAVORITE form of foreplay, and I can’t even do it the way that I WANT to do it to the man I love😖. I love getting facefucked, I always have my best orgasims when I’m being used as a sex object, but can let him pound my face because instead of enjoying the experience and trying to cum, im too focused on trying NOT to puke whatever I had to eat that day.
Does anyone relate to my struggle? If so then how did you overcome it? Any and all advice is appreciated as well. Thank you for listening to my TED talk.
[Edit] I have read all of your comments & I greatly appreciate them all, but I feel as though I need to clarify on area that I wasn’t very clear on the first time.
1) Deepthroating isn’t the only thing that I do when going down on him, I usually (in between deepthroat attempts) give him sloppy toppy. To give you an idea of how sloppy i make it, I usually have to put a towel underneath him, and he usually has to go wash his junk after I’m done with him. Yes, am I bragging just a little bit. Sorry if that seemed off topic, I just wanted to let it be known that I’m not a one trick pony.
2) For all of you that suggested that I lay on the bed with my head hanging off of the edge, we do that most of the time, and it does help with taking more of him in, but the issue with that is that bf is the type of guy that will start to fuck with the power and speed of a jackhammer once he finds his bearings. Now this usually isn’t a problem when it comes to anal (I actually perfer it that way)…but with facefucking, it just makes me want to throw up even more. Now I will admit that I never actually talked to him about this. So that’s on me, my bad, I’ll be sure to talk to him about it soon.
3) As I’ve stated before, he doesn’t care if I can fully take him or not, it’s just a problem that I have with myself. A lot of you Said that if he doesn’t mind it, then neither should I, and I am going to try my best to get over this issue.
Once again, thank you to everyone that gave their 2 cents, it was greatly appreciated and I hope you all have a great life. 👍
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i struggle with this too, like well endowed 😌 upward curve too ? And it’s also seems like it works better when I can just ‘lay there and take it’ but would looove to be able to please him with my mouth as much as I can
You know most men don’t even get that much pleasure from deep throating? It’s more of a power play thing they get off from. Honestly if your partner is as big as you say he is then and if he’s not bothered then don’t worry about it ,you’re trying to fight your bodies natural instinct.
If you squeeze your left thumb in the palm of your hand, it suppresses some of the gag reflexes
I totally relate. My partner says the same and I have deep throated before but his I can’t. The curve upwards also is an issue. I could going 69 position makes the curve point down into my throat. With the thumb trick and just relaxing your through and sticking out your tongue, you have betting chance 🙂
Edit: also has another said, most don’t find lots of pleasure. It is just a power play. So being able to do it for just a little and then focusing on other stimulation. My partner loves when I spread out my tongue and stimulates de balls. Seems like you’re already making you partner really happy tho, so good 4 you:)
You might want to visit r/bigdickproblems
Have you tried laying on the bed on your back with your head hanging off the edge and then have him gently enter your mouth and throat? I’m similar in size but I only have a slight upward curve. Normally the wife can’t take me all but for sure hat ever reason in this position she can go balls deep.
She lays there and I basically fuck yet throat. Its important that he takes it slow and easy or it won’t work
For a great ass BJ, deep throat is not a requirement. If you can’t deep throat, don’t. But you can still suck his brains out.
I’ve written this so many times.
Focus on the glans, focus on the frenulum. Watch frenulum play videos.
I’m similar to your guy, I know I’m big. I’m also with your partner on deepthroating not being a big deal.
I understand your feelings amd why you want to be able to, I do. But if it doesn’t bother your guy, then you’re ok bud. I promise you.
If you feel that much about it, talk with him. Maybe ask him to take things as someone else explained earlier (laying on your back and letting him into your mouth)
Communication is the big one here bid. Best of luck amd all the love 😁
My go to thing for deep throating is you inhale as you go down (take more in). Works so good and has never failed me yet. Hopefully it could work for you but deep throating isnt necessary for a good bj. Focus on the tip and the line thingy on the dick. Idk what its called but someone in this thread said what it is.
Sometimes it’s all about angles. Try from a different position where the curve is more naturally aligned with you throat.