I recently tested positive for chlamydia and have been having a lot of anxiety about it. Before testing positive I started talking to someone I really like and because of timing we didn’t get to go on our first date until awhile after.
In between that time, I tested positive and immediately started the treatment. I have absolutely no intention of having any kind of sex until 7 days after the treatments done. Ideally even longer than that to be safe but I read somewhere that sometimes you might not test negative until 3 months after.
We had our first date and kissed but did absolutely nothing more. I didn’t tell him why, and again have no intention of doing anything more until I’m sure I’m in the clear but I’m feeling so guilty.
Please be honest. Would you want to know if someone had had a curable std in the past if it was recent, even if they tested negative? Would you feel comfortable even kissing someone in these circumstances?
Idk what the right thing to do here is and I know I’m not being forced to have sex. But I really do like this person and would like to once I know I’m okay. I just feel so embarrassed, and gross, and shameful right now. Which I know is wrong but I can’t help it.
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Ethically, if treatment time is over and you’ve even given an additional grace period then you’re guilt free without feeling like it’s rolling the dice.
You’ll get two outcomes; firstly he’ll respect the waiting for intimacy as the gentleman he is (and good things come to those who wait), secondly if by chance he catches it from you down the line you can rework the timeline back a little further and chalk it up laughingly as a misstep of modern science.
>I know I’m okay. I just feel so embarrassed, and gross, and shameful right now.
You should tell him so he’ll be informed and can make his own decisions about when he would like to start sexual relations with you.
Hey there ! Just for your notice many STDs hit men way harder than they hit women symptoms and complications wise . Talkin about some immesurable UTI pain with higher chance for benign and malignant tumors with substantial fertility risk . Dont take it lightly ma’am . Thats some basic human level of right to inform someone if these types of avoidable risks . Wish you the best ! If my partner hid things like this from me intentionally and i find out its donzo in my case . Your body is the last thing you got left before you die you know ?