I have told him I don’t want a relationship where he uses me till he finds someone better and he’s said he isn’t doing that and genuinely cares about me. He said he loves talking to me. And we sincerely connected over being able to freely talk about things.
But literally overnight, about a month ago, he’s been dragging on a ‘how are you’ conversation, replying many days later with barely anything, but keeps the convo going by asking me one question. When I ignored him/ left him on read because I thought he was giving me the slow fade/indicating he’d like to cut off, he texts early one day to ask how I’m doing.
I can be socially clueless and have borderline personality and tend to react emotionally (without lashing out) when I feel like I’m being abandoned, especially since I don’t realise it’s happening, so I’m trying to get another perspective before I talk to him, in case I’m being too sensitive about it. At the same time I don’t want to be obtuse if he’s giving me an obvious sign he wants distance.
How would you proceed if you were in my shoes?
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Yes this is a slow fade, so you need to mentally start moving on from this relationship.
Sometimes there isn’t much to chat about and that’s okay. Maybe try to be upfront and ask if that’s the case, but don’t do anything too too rash either texting with a valued partner shouldn’t feel like a game sometimes the pacing is different from my exp. Slower chats and fewer chats can be okay provided irl is fine