Sorry if this is the wrong subreddit. Idk which one I could put it in.
Anyway, I’m 17F and I tried to masturbate today. I’ve been touching myself since 13 but it was always me rubbing my vagina through my underwear and it felt quite good actually, so I was satisfied with that.
However, I’ve recently become interested in actual masturbation and how that feels.
This could be a major factor in it, but I tried to do it today whilst not feeling horny. I’m romantically involved with somebody and we tried to sext today but I just wasn’t feeling it. I didn’t really want to say & I thought once I started touching myself I’d feel turned on but nope.
Anyway, so I tried to masturbate with my legs open whilst not feeling horny and I could barely fit it in. Maybe like a teeny bit but barely anything.
Is this normal if you aren’t horny and are tight, and what if I’m still this tight when horny?
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Is your Hyman intact?
Anxious a little bit because of the sexting maybe, and not turned on to start with? Yeah you were probably dryer than the Sahara.
If you want to force the issue, lube! But much better is probably just to wait till next time you ARE in the mood, maybe get off through your normal, and THEN when things are “ideal” so to speak, try again.
As someone mentioned it’s also possible if you’ve never had sex that your hymen is what you are feeling. If you ever had a full gyno exam or put in a tampon, this is extremely unlikely. If not, it could be why, yes.
When you are aroused, your vagina naturally produces a substance that allows easier penetration.
When you feel in the mood, start by touching the outside of the vulva and the clit and when you feel wet at the entrance of your vagina, put a finger inside slowly. If it’s need more wetness add spit or lube.
Remember that it’s not supposed to hurt and try to stay relaxed.
Also, masturbating is not only about penetration, some women enjoy only clitoral stimulation.
Lube/spit and you’re good
So, besides what’s already been mentioned (mental and physical relaxation, lubrication) also know that hymens are variable. Some women never had one, others had one but it allowed some penetration, others had one that would be restrictive but it tore from sex or bike riding or whatever, others had one that didn’t have any give to it until it was medically treated. Some couldn’t even have a period normally until it was removed.
If it doesn’t get better it’s worth mentioning to a doctor at some point.