Hi guys I’m 22f and I’ve been sleeping with 22m for a while.
I struggle with pain during sex in general, when it gets deep. I don’t know if it’s air or my cervix being short.
His shape makes his penis go sideways so sometimes it hits my bone in a really painful way. Some days it doesn’t happen and there’s no pain, but it was excessive last night.
The worst position for me is doggy or from the back. As I mentioned before I can tolerate it sometimes but last night was like hell. It feels like someone is stabbing me in the stomach. I have a pretty high pain tolerance (get Brazilian waxes, unmediated painful periods, have gone through unmediated labor) so when I complain about pain, I definitely tried my best to tolerate it before surrendering.
Im frustrated and feel like a failure because i don’t want to be restricted to just missionary and cow girl. If anyone has any tips or suggestions please let me know. I feel so bad.
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You need to be way way way more aroused before penetration. The vagina expands with arousal.
Lube could also help. But I think the main thing is, he probably needs to thrust less deeply.
>It feels like someone is stabbing me in the stomach
Yeah this is probably from your cervix being hit. Stomach pains and abdominal cramps are symptoms of this.
You can get a penis blocker, or a bunch of big squishy c-tings to put around the base of the penis to prevent depe penetration.
>feel like a failure
You are not! It’s either the anatomy you were born with, or sometimes your anatomy just doesn’t jive with a particular person.
Something else to note is your cervix changes position throughout your cycle. Try tracking the pain with your cycle.
This can happen sometimes with different positions, especially with a longer penis it can bump up against your cervix. Unfortunately all you can do is be communicative about the pain and ask your partner to not go so deep 🙁
you can try other positions but not as deep. Try using pillows and angles that let you decide how deep he can go
Ask him to stay shallower or stick with positions that don’t go as deep. Also, your cervix changes position based on where you are at in your cycle which is likely why it hurts on some days but not others.